According to Timothy Butler, a coach and psychoterapist, “the successful businessperson …learns how to stay with this process of staying stuck in the darkness…until a new momentum emerges from the very experience of being stuck, of being in the dark.” (See his book for more details: <a href=”http://Getting Unstuck: How Dead Ends Become New Paths
Archive for November, 2008
Feeling stuck? Don’t run!
What does fear do in our lives?
I wonder sometimes about fear. I watch people who show courage–what I don’t know is, do they also have fear? An author says “Being driven by fear is like dying inside.” (Sharon Salzberg). So maybe those who are courageous are living fully because they have conquered their fear and are no longer driven by it. This makes sense to me. So the important thing in our lives is not so much to lack fear, but to have the ability to overcome it so that we may live a full life. I am curious as to how this plays in relation to our own self-worth and self-confidence. When we lack these, are we being driven by fear? Are we allowing fear to rule our life and, therefore, to be a small death every day?
I would love you, the reader, to add your thoughts…
Was that time really wasted?
I just came across a John Lennon phrase “Time you enjoy wasting, is not wasted.” A couple of days ago I was listening to a friend who was lamenting how people at a meeting were wasting time and how she had no patience for that kind of waste. The words from John Lennon seem to provide an explanation for how subjective one’s perspective really is–at that meeting where my friend found she was wasting precious time, other people were probably enjoying the time wasted immensely.
Sometimes those of us who are task oriented become so focussed on the task at hand that we don’t appreciate that our world is made richer by those people around us who are more oriented towards community and fellowship than task. Mercifully, the world is a wonderful place and there is room for both types of people: those who are task oriented will get things done, and those who are seeking connection, will also get things done, albeit at a slower pace. There is no doubt in my mind that at the end of my days I will not be looking back to ask how many tasks I have accomplished–did it really matter that a 1000 envelopes were addressed and sealed in a hour? Or will I long for the joy of the people who came together to give of their time, even if they seemed to be wasting mine?
So next time you think someone is wasting your time, think how much the other person may be enjoying herself! What would it take to see it from her point of view?
Why a women’s college?
As fall approaches and lots of young women I know are applying to college, I found this article that I thought was inspiring and informative, especially considering that it is written by a young woman who has not yet graduated. I know firsthand that going to Wellesley has empowered me as a woman–and I often get asked how come I have so much self-confidence. I think Wellesley put me on that path…though there was a long part of the journey that was uniquely my own and that happened well after I left college. Anyway, for young women considering the choice of college, this is a good article to read!
Intro to Empowerment – The Boston Globe
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